acceptance

Acceptance is Not a Practice 
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Rupert: You describe very accurately that situation where there is nothing to do; you're sitting in the car and there's nothing for you to do, and you become aware of this subtle resistance to the current situation where there's no practical need for any resistance. So you become aware of the resistance, and then you then judge that resistance, and you become aware of what is a resistance to your resistance, which is another layer of resistance.

What is important Not to do is to then try to change the second resistance into acceptance. Because that is just 'changing'. It's a very subtle trick of the ego.

Ego is made out of the first resistance: "I don't like what is happening." It then reinforces itself by saying "I don't like the fact that that I don't like what is happening." Yes?

So, the ego (what I mean by ego is the separate self), is made out of these two resistances.

Then when it begins to feel that it is being found out it thinks: "Ok, I better change the second resistance into an activity called acceptance. It's a little bit more virtuous, a little bit more spiritual." And the separate self thereby subtly, (and in fact not-so-subtly once we've seen it), perpetuates itself.

So, the resistance and acceptance are two ways in which the separate self perpetuates itself.

What we're talking about is the openness that is the essential nature of Awareness/our Self. Its nature is to be open and empty.

In that sense, Awareness (we could say) is like the space of this room; it's nature is to be empty. 'Acceptance' is not something it practices.

The Space of this room…, when we all start filing in here after dinner, it doesn't have to practice allowing each of us. It doesn't say, "Oh, I like the look of him, I accept him, but I don't like the look of her." In other words, the space is not negotiating experience. Accepting is its nature. It is what it IS, not what it does.

That's the important thing to see: that what we essentially Are is already inherently, perfectly without resistance.

Then, once we see that, we stand as That; we know ourselves as That.

Then, the mind is just left to do whatever it is doing; whether it's resisting, whether it's accepting…, whatever it's doing. But it is no longer supported by our investment in it. And therefore, in time, without that support, it comes naturally to an end. 
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Rupert Spira
Excerpt from "Acceptance is Not a Practice"
(From Beginning to approx 3:40)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27RwLosd2Ds